5 Months of Marriage

December 7, 2007 at 3:35 pm | In marriage | Leave a Comment
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To My Husband,

We’ve got one more month of marriage under our belt. Hooray! It has been a pretty big month, with moving, new commitments, and our first major holiday.

There has been so much to do, and you have kept up with it beautifully. Thanks so much for taking care of the details of all the little things. Wedding albums, magazine subscriptions, business contacts, and storage contracts would still be waiting to be dealt with if you were not there to work them out. I appreciate your hard work, and I appreciate that you appreciate my pickiness, even though I am the only one who seems to care.

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We’ve spent much of our free time snuggled up watching TV in bed. The Office, Friends, Family Guy, and the occasional Bond movie have been staples in our entertainment repetoire. It is a big change from our normal routine of driving hundreds of miles in a given weekend, and from seeing all of our movies at the movie theater, but  we needed it, and I have really enjoyed it. At some point, I am sure we will get out of bed and pick up our adventuring, but it is nice, when we get to a new place, to have time to get used to our surroundings, relax, and know that we will always have each other.

When we weren’t watching TV, we were at the mall. I don’t think we’ve ever spent so much time shopping together, at least not since that weekend we discovered Steve and Barry’s. It has been fun discovering DVD bargains and admiring the little kids getting their pictures taken in the old-timey clothing. It has been fun picking our doggie clothing and learning how to do some healthy grocery shopping. It’s fun going to restaurants with you, not just because I can have a milkshake and listen to oldies, or eat tiny burgers and visit a salad bar, but because we really get to talk. It’s even worth standing in the express line at Walmart for 37 minutes, to earn that quality time.

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Trying on new clothes

We celebrated our first married Thanksgiving, and had so much fun. Medieval Times was a great idea, and it reminded me that we are perfect for each other. Who else would think of something like that, and who else would be so enthusiastic while doing it? I love when we do these things together, and I love how much you love them. It is at the times when we are doing something unusual, silly, or just a little bit wacky that I realize how much you are like me, how much you know me, and how much I appreciate having a person like you in my life.

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It has been a productive month for both career and family. We have made some big decisions regarding our futures, and our lives are getting more exciting every day. While our relocation has been unstable and stressful, we have begun taking the steps to get ourselves closer to living the lives we dream of. We have thought about what we really want, and are making plans to get it.

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Back in school, dreaming of a big break

You have been given a great opportunity to use your creativity, gain experience, and gain exposure. I know this is something you have been waiting for for a long time, and your talent and personality will make it a big success. You are taking great advantage of your time off, and if we do it right, we can have a nice collection of projects by the end of the three weeks. 

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Winter Dog Training

We also renewed our commitment to training the dogs - they will be well behaved little angels in no time!

And even though not everything we tried this month was a success right off the bat, we will persevere, and we will have fun trying to succeed! I am so excited to get started on our sixth month of marriage. It will be full of friends, family, art, and roadtripping – and the thing we love best, tons of time spent together.

Love,

Your Wife

P.S. Thanks for the chocolate sauce, the egg nog, and especially lemon juice. Your are very thoughtful!

Where There’s Smoke, There’s Me

December 6, 2007 at 5:06 pm | In marriage | Leave a Comment
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I set our hotel room smoke detector off for about 20 minutes Tuesday night while cooking hamburgers.

For some reason, I cannot cook hamburgers without filling the entire house with smoke. Actually, I can with the George Forman Grill. We got one at the bridal shower and it saved our ears after setting the smoke alarm off three times in our New Jersey apartment (where the smoke detector was inconveniently located high up on the vault ceiling).

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Getting Our Grill

But the George Forman Grill is in storage. So my poor dogs were cowering in the corner of the bedroom, trying to escape the piercing screams on the smoke detector, and probably searching for fresh air, while I panicked that the dogs were going deaf and that we were going to get kicked out because they would think I was smoking in a non-smoking room, and the entire hotel was going to be soaked by the sprinkler system because I can’t cook dinner properly. Luckily, Mr. Andrews came home from work, opened the windows and fanned the air in front of the detector, so it finally stopped. My hero!

And – bonus! - the people at the front desk had no idea that anything had happened, so I didn’t cause a problem to anyone but my family. The burgers even tasted good! Still, it freaked me out a bit. Last night, we ate food cooked by the hotel staff and I have only eaten frozen toaster waffles since then. Less likely to burn down a hotel with a toaster, right?

Anyway, I am going to attempt fajitas tonight. I will keep the stove heat down, and probably the windows open. Wish me luck.

Movie Night

November 19, 2007 at 11:25 pm | In marriage | Leave a Comment
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Mr. Andrews and I were brought together by movies. We met in a graduate Media Arts program and bonded over the fact that we were pretty much the only people who didn’t think “Hollywood” was a bad word. It was nice to have someone to see Ocean’s Eleven with when everybody else was claiming they couldn’t see any movies at all because it might screw up their creativity. Through the years we have seen hundreds of films together. We have a lot of the same favorites: Lost In Translation, Almost Famous, Out of Sight to name a few. We get movies. We love movies. Compatibility abounds.

I can handle and even enjoy pretty tough films, from the tiniest DV indie (try LOL) to the most sweeping epic, and all the serious Oscar contenders in between. Last year, Mr. Andrews planned an entire film festival for us and we saw The Queen, Shortbus, Little Children, Notes on a Scandal, Jesus Camp, and Shut Up and Sing in one weekend. But even with all that, I am still of the MTV generation, and I am still a woman. I enjoy the occasional chick flick or ridiculous comedy starring some SNL alum. And if the film is over two hours, it better be good. I am only human after all. This where Mr. Andrews and I differ. Greatly.

Mr. Andrews has an extensive DVD collection, over 200 titles, and I was able to find exactly one (American Pie) that did not star someone who was at least nominated for an Academy Award. My husband thinks nothing of spending an afternoon (or a whole day) viewing of Lawrence of Arabia or The Godfather trilogy. Four hour films don’t even phase him – in fact, the longer the better –  where I feel like I have just survived about 3 difficult years of my life by the time the film is over. I like Paul Thomas Anderson as much as the next guy, I just can’t watch something like Magnolia every single day.

The other day I said I was in the mood to watch something “light.” I was thinking, like Legally Blonde or perhaps my new $5 DVD bargain, Liar Liar . He came back with O Brother Where Art Thou. Which, don’t get me wrong, is really funny – and hello, George Clooney is in it. But on the other hand, it is based on The Odyssey. Don’t you think the Coen Brother would be insulted to be called “light”? It’s not like they’re the Farrelly Brothers.

Anyway, after we watched that, and Cool Hand Luke, and were about to watch Snatch, I tried to clarify my idea of a light movie: No Classics. Nothing on the AFI Top 100 list. Nothing starring Katharine Hepburn (this was in response to a suggestion to watch Bringing Up Baby). Nothing that was made before I knew how to talk (this somewhat irrationally eliminated Airplane! – but old movies make me have to think a little). Nothing starring George Clooney after he became a director. Nothing foreign. Nothing Western. Not Chinatown. Nothing black & white (the horror movie we watched on Halloween was The Birds – I think I get points for that). And nothing over 2 hours. 90 minutes would be perfect.

Mr. Andrews was very receptive to this. We actually did watch Liar Liar, and he laughed! At Jim Carrey! Not only that, he actually wanted to watch Must Love Dogs with me this Sunday. He practically suggested it himself.

So we have created a balance in our DVD world. He teaches me about the greats in film history, introducing me to pieces of cinema I would never watch in a million years (try Cradle Will Rock), getting me to watch stuff that is both black & white and funny at the same time (the aforementioned Bringing Up Baby) and even introduced me to some of my favorite movies. And I teach him about the wonder that is John Cusack and the glory that is Amanda Bynes.

Are we the perfect couple or what?

Wedding Bliss Part II: Venue

November 8, 2007 at 7:07 pm | In marriage, wedding | 1 Comment
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The first step in our wedding planning process was finding the place. We are not really church people, so we agreed to go with a place where we could hold both the ceremony and the reception. Like with most of the things in the wedding, choosing the venue consisted of many hours of researching, looking at two or three places, and making a fairly quick decision. I am not the kind of girl that can go to fifty seven potential function rooms before making a decision. I am not quite that particular, and all that driving around Boston and its suburbs really cut into my TV watching time.

My main sources for info on good places were fairly obvious: The Knot, Boston Magazine’s Elegant Weddings, and my mom, who must go to forty weddings a year for all the ballrooms, hotels, and mansions she knows around town. There were plenty of amazing places. My only goal was to not go somewhere too familiar. The Red Lion Inn, for example, is beautiful, but I had already been to a few weddings there. Other places were awesome but inconveniently far away, some were gorgeous but prohibitively expensive, and one solitary site, The New England Aquarium, was already booked for our date. We narrowed it down to three different types of places: one country, one city, and one at the beach.

The first place we looked was Jones River Trading in Kingston, MA. My mom really liked it, but to me it was a little too rustic, and the nautical themed antiques kind of turned me off. The river out back would have made for lovely wedding day portraits, but the lack of air conditioning for the summer event was the deal breaker. I didn’t want to give any of my relatives heat stroke on the otherwise happiest day of my life.

The second place we looked was Veronique at Longwood Towers in Brookline, MA. It was an adventure to get there (Storrow Drive sucks!) and we almost didn’t make it. Fortunately, though, they accomodated us with a tour even though we were 20 minutes late. Longwood Towers is an old, brick castle-looking building that houses condos as well as event space. One unit was reportedly home to Babe Ruth when he was on the Red Sox (this was a selling point for Mr. Andrews). It has a really unique look on the outside, and a grand, almost medieval lobby on the inside. The wedding planner met with us there (offering us drinks, of course), then showed us two spaces: The Ballroom, an elegantly Gothic space for 250 guests, and The Club, an attractive, smaller room with ornate wood walls and a guilded ceiling (it kind of reminded me of Hogwarts, but in a good way…). It can accomodate 120 people, and costs about half as much as The Ballroom. Both had nice balcony areas for the cocktail hour, which was helpful for transforming the area below from ceremony to reception.

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All of us instantly loved this place and I was willing to make a decision on the spot. Just to be safe, though, we drove by Raffael’s in Hull, MA before we committed. It is right on the ocean and we could have had a breathtaking ceremony with the ocean in the background. Fear of rain got the better of me, though. Ultimately, we opted for the urban choice and went with The Club at Veronique. Here’s what it looked like:

 

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First Dance

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Dance With My Dad

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The Ceiling

Nice, right? This was the best choice we could have made. Not only was it fantastic-looking, but there were many perks. The best part was that the room came with a wedding planner who took care of everything. I would not want to think about doing a wedding without her. They took care of every detail on the day of the wedding, while we just sat around, enjoying champagne and fruit, waiting for it to start. Everyone was so friendly and truly nice. I am genuinely grateful that we got to work with these people. I would recommend the place just for them, even if it wasn’t as good looking as it is.

Another benefit was the food. Finding a place with catering included took an extra chore off our list, and with this site we got the same delicious menu they serve at the glamorous State Room in Downtown Boston – for deep discount prices (plus we were closer to Fenway Park, which was valuable with our out of town guests). They had a tasting for us in February where we got to try everything from appetizers and signature cocktails to several courses of meals to wedding cake, a chocolate fountain, and mini root beer floats for dessert. We didn’t go with many of the frilly extras (we really didn’t need to – it was so nice on its own!) but it was wonderfully fun and it really gave us something else to look forward to at the wedding.

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Statler Chicken Breast

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Chocolate Fountain

Additionally, one detail that I really loved was the staircase from the balcony. I got to walk down the stairs and then down the aisle to meet my groom. It was death defying and guests could see the fear in my eyes as I tried not to kill myself in heels and a puffy dress. Yet, it was dramatic and all eyes were on me!

More about the menu (including the pretty and yummy cake!), the ceremony, the reception, and all the other hoopla that took place there later. If you are planning a wedding, enjoy your venue search – like me, I hope you find the space of your dreams. And in Massachusetts, consider Veronique!

4 Months of Marriage

November 7, 2007 at 12:46 pm | In marriage | Leave a Comment
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To My Husband,

I am thouroughly enjoying being married to you. We have made it through a third of a year – not bad for a couple of people who were committed to staying single forever. This newlywed thing is underrated. If I had known it would be such a good time, I wouldn’t have waited five years to marry you! 

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Us, Santa Monica, August 2002

I think after four months we have settled into a good rhythm and our marriage is working out pretty great. Our conversation in Scranton really seemed to bring a lot of peace into our relationship. It was worth it, even though we missed most of the Dunder-Mifflin Stockholders’ meeting. I don’t even remember the most of the details of what we figured out, but life has been nothing short of joyful ever since.

The one bad moment was when you scared me to death by falling in (out of?) the shower. Let’s try to prevent that from happening again, okay? Since you turned out to be fine, it’s kind of funny now, but I will try not to laugh at you – I sure don’t want to temp fate and have you crack your head again.

I am enjoying all of our married travelling. I am most happy that we went to Charleston to celebrate our wedding with your relatives. I was dreading it, but it was actually nice.

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Us, Charleston, October 2007

I am glad my parents got to see where you come from, and I am glad I got to meet Lila, finally. I am not sure Johnny Drama is glad he met Aris, but it sure was hilarious!

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Aris & Drama

I am also having a blast just sitting around together - watching a movie each night, doing arts & craft, mocking CNN, and figuring out what we would name all of our kids if we had twelve of them (Steve Martin Andrews and Admiral Andrews are still some of my favorites). Forging new paths or just hanging out, all of it is just the best.

I am excited for all the possibilities ahead of us. I know in twenty or forty or seventy-five years, we will look back at this time in the very beginning of our marriage, and we will have so many happy memories. We will remember sketching with colored pencils and picking our own pumpkins, seeing your first Broadway musical and getting a wink and a smile from Natalie Portman. I will remember how you bought me the Star Wars and Gone With The Wind Christmas tree ornaments from Hallmark. That was perfect. I hope you have some perfect memories, too.

Thanks for everything you do for us. I am grateful for the life you have shared with me so far. I cannot wait for all the adventures (and nonadventures) to come. Just be careful in the tub!

Love,

Your Wife

Two Days Before Our Wedding

November 4, 2007 at 10:18 am | In Images, marriage | Leave a Comment
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